If you do not feel so good about yourself, if you think that your self-esteem is a bit
low or you beat yourself up regularly when making a mistake then there are
things you can do.
low or you beat yourself up regularly when making a mistake then there are
things you can do.
There are habits you can develop within yourself to become more self-reliant and
stronger through life's ups and downs.
stronger through life's ups and downs.
These two habits have been among the most effective for me.
Change your input to things that are kind and constructive.
Destructive messages from the people around you or from people further away
such as media, advertising and society in general does not help you to be kind to
yourself.
such as media, advertising and society in general does not help you to be kind to
yourself.
So, bit by bit, replace them with other daily and weekly input.
It could be the encouragement of friends and family and the help from someone
close who has been in a situation that you are in now.
close who has been in a situation that you are in now.
It could be practical personal development books and blogs that help you out with
real solutions to the challenges you face and the goals you want to achieve.
real solutions to the challenges you face and the goals you want to achieve.
It could be spending more time in nature and in silence to relax and recharge
yourself.
yourself.
This year make more conscious choices about what you want flowing into your
mind instead of just going along with same old habits.
mind instead of just going along with same old habits.
Give yourself a break and think in percentages rather than always.
I sometimes hear that you should always be positive or always be winning or
working towards your goal.
working towards your goal.
That may sound inspirational in theory. But reality is not ideal or perfect and
neither are you and I. Life gets in the way sometimes. You may get in your own
way. And sometimes you simply don't have the energy or the courage or the time
neither are you and I. Life gets in the way sometimes. You may get in your own
way. And sometimes you simply don't have the energy or the courage or the time
to do something.
And that is OK. Instead of trying to live up to some perfect image that other
people and/or you may press upon you, choose to set human standards for
yourself.
people and/or you may press upon you, choose to set human standards for
yourself.
Choose to give yourself a break when things don't go as you may have wished and
choose to cut yourself some slack.
choose to cut yourself some slack.
Instead of beating yourself up mercilessly.
One approach that works for me is to think more in percentages than absolutes
and to set the bar for yourself a little higher than it is now. For example, aim at
being optimistic roughly 75% of the time if you are optimistic 50% of the time now.
Aim at taking action on your thoughts 60% of the time. Then raise the bar slowly
over time - but not all the way to 100% - to both be able to improve and to be
able to be kind to yourself.
and to set the bar for yourself a little higher than it is now. For example, aim at
being optimistic roughly 75% of the time if you are optimistic 50% of the time now.
Aim at taking action on your thoughts 60% of the time. Then raise the bar slowly
over time - but not all the way to 100% - to both be able to improve and to be
able to be kind to yourself.
And accept that you will make mistakes or have temporary failures a certain
percentage of the time. Such is life for everyone who wants to step outside of their
comfort zone or do something of real value. But of course learn from those things
percentage of the time. Such is life for everyone who wants to step outside of their
comfort zone or do something of real value. But of course learn from those things
and avoid making the same mistakes over and over.
To a year of self-kindness!
P.S: To learn much more about self-kindness and finding inner happiness join us
in the 12-week, step-by-step Self-Esteem Course.
in the 12-week, step-by-step Self-Esteem Course.
@Copied :Henrik.
(Henrik is person helping people to built up positive self esteem and make them to follow path that will ultimately reach towards success!!)
